Giving Myself

[figaro]

You know, I'm not sure how I feel about Astrology. I'm a Christian, so I'd like to say I don't believe in it, but I am eerily a Pisces at heart. I'm imaginative, I'm sensitive, I'm compassionate, I'm idealistic, and I'm emotional. I give more of myself than people give me back.

Look at these problems Pisceans often have:

A strong sense of despair not shared by family and friends, thus leaving you with that all alone feeling.

Causing others to be quarrelsome or to walk out on you all together.

Freaky. I should stop reading this shit, lol.

One of my friends gave me some great advice this week. She said I should stop putting effort into relationships where that effort isn't returned. It's so simple, and it makes so much sense.

I'm not upset or anything right now, by the way. I just was feeling contemplative and wanted to write (read: think) this out.

I hope everyone has a great Memorial Day Weekend! I've been relaxing today. Played a whole bunch of Donkey Kong Country Returns, and slept. I've actually slept a lot. I need to quit being lazy and go do something. lol

Comments

[kaworu]

lol don't read those! they hire writers to write those as ambiguous and call-encompassing as possible on purpose.

but yeah, good advice. I let relationships drift when I realize the only reason we talk is because I put all the effort into keeping in contact.

[figaro]

lol Like fortune cookies...

I think that's smart. If you're the only one putting effort into keeping in contact, you just need to let it go. Harder said than done, but that's definitely something I want to work on.

[dionysius]

I don't believe in astrology at all, but I enjoy reading horoscopes anyway for fun. And it can be quite eerie when it seems so exact, but then I remember all the weeks where it didn't match my situation and it feels less creepy that way! :D

I think letting go of "toxic" friends is really important - "toxic" can be even as little as them not putting the effort in, as your friend says, or it can be more full blown. It took me a long time to be able to cut people out, but when I learned to do it, and realize that we'll both be fine afterward, and I'll be in a better position to not have deal with their crap, it's worth it! I think it's something that's hard in the short term, at the actual time, but as time goes on, I've never regretted cutting someone out who I felt wasn't putting in the effort I was.

[figaro]

I think you hit the nail on the head. There are times where I wonder if friends will bother contacting me if I don't text them first, or will want to hang out with me if I don't make the plans or ask when I can see them. I say them in a general sense, because I'm not insecure about all of my friendships... Or even familial relationships.

Those people aren't worth keeping around, and the stress they bring me outweigh the good they leave me feeling.