Outing Myself

[figaro]

I made a new friend on my first day of work. His name is Jacob, and he's the grocery manager of the first store I visited this week. We've been texting back and forth, and after making plans to hang out, I wanted to let him know I'm gay, so there's not that awkward "oh yeah, I'm gay," moment later on. I always struggle when it comes to this, because I don't act gay, and people can't tell unless I tell them. I don't like advertising it, but I won't lie about it, so if someone asks or needs to know, I let them know. Me going to his house to play games alone with him? And then him adding me on Facebook, where he most assuredly will find out on his own?  I felt it was best if I told him. His reaction was awesome. And our conversation afterward:

Jacob: Dude, that's cool. Sexuality means nothing to me. Or my friends, so don't worry about that.

And when you do finally hang out with my group, which you will, let's be honest, you won't ever be judged.

Me: I'm... also a Power Ranger. And an Animorph.

Jacob: See, this is why you'd fit in so well with my friends. lol

Me: Lol, I am serious. Don't tell anyone. The yeerks will find me.

My new job is going amazingly well. I've visited two stores so far, and both stores had people asking me if I could be their Kompass rep, as they don't like their current one, and well, I'm awesome. ;) I have a really great work relationship with my boss, Brian, too, who has called me and asked me to do a couple last minute projects for him so far. I always do what Brian asks because he takes care of me, and I like being his right hand guy. He's the reason I'm even back at this job. I would still be at HellStop.

My last two weeks at GameStop were torture, and officially the slowest two weeks of my life, but I won't dwell on them; they're over now. I did let loose during my exit interview. The HR manager had a lot to type, lol. I figure even if I'm not there anymore, I want to better the working conditions for my friends who are still there, and my staff.

We've found two apartments we like so far. The one I'm leaning toward is $605 a month. I want to see if we can find one even cheaper, though, so we'll still look for a while.

Sorry for being a horrible DW/LJ friend lately. During my last two weeks at GameStop, I was kind of dead after work, so I haven't been reading/commenting/updating like I do. I will catch up soon.

Comments

[helvetica]

That's awesome about your new friend :) I always get sad when people feel like they have to be all, "oh by the way I'm gay, is that okay?" I hope that isn't necessary someday!

I'm glad you're liking your new job so much, that is awesome!

[figaro]

Yeeeeaaaaah, I've had several of those conversations myself. :/ I can't wait until it's unnecessary as well.

Thank you!

[iosonochesono]

Aha that's awesome! I should introduce myself as an Animorph in general too, I talk about it too much otherwise.

[figaro]

lol Definitely breaks the ice.

[dionysius]

Woo, that's fantastic! I don't out myself, but am usually at least a little worried about someone's reaction when they find out. I have on FB that I'm attracted to men and women, but usually people just find out based on me talking about people I'm attracted to! That said, my closest friend from uni thought I was gay rather than bisexual this whole time, haha. When I started dating a girl, she was like "I THOUGHT YOU WERE GAY?!" Often, I'm like "If someone has a problem with it, it's their problem, and I'd be glad to find out they're so narrow-minded" but I know it's not as simple. I'm glad he took it so well! It's kind of sad that we still applaud people for such a thing, but there are so many bigots around that it is commendable!

[figaro]

You know, I'd consider myself bisexual as well, but I find it's easier to identify as gay. Guys are fine when I tell them I've been with women. When I've told women, they weren't that cool with it.

I've dated both, and I have found that while I am attracted to females, I feel like something is missing when I'm with them. When I'm with a guy, I'm complete. Weird, huh?

[dionysius]

I get that - I get more shit for being bi than being gay. If I post things to FB etc. on behalf of the LGB community, I usually do say something about "We gay", so people who don't know any better will think I'm gay. It doesn't bother me either way. I think being gay is more easy to understand for other people.

I don't find it strange. :) I form closer bonds to women in general (I've only had one partner, who was a girl, and while it didn't really last long enough to call her a "partner", we're still very close friends), but I'm more sexually attracted to men. :) Everyone's in a different place on the scale, I guess! It's never 50:50 with being bisexual, I dare say!